We all know what it feels like to become ‘in love’. It’s incredible and can even be addictive! Occasionally we can barely eat or sleep, as thoughts with the other fill our mind incessantly. But when this obsession wears off, we’re inevitably left with feelings of disappointment. Why is he not the way I want him to become? We start to feel a lack of satisfaction, and this is the cause of so many failed relationships. So what is this thing called enjoy and why does it seem so fleeting?
To truly recognize what adore is, and in order to restore it in our relationships, we should delve deeper into the spiritual roots of adore. According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, ‘love’, as we presently experience it in our lives, isn’t true adore. And only when we comprehend spiritual adore among a man along with a woman, will we be truly satisfied in our relationships.
According to Kabbalah, enjoy may be the only positive good quality that unites all the elements of character, including our own inner world. All of dynamics works according to the law of universal love. This law operates as does any organism where each cell takes care in the entire body’s vital functions and health, sustains its vitality, development and its existence. Each component only functions for the mutual benefit from the entire, or gives for the whole.
On the other hand, as humans today, we are unaware of this law of character and its utmost importance for our lives and wellbeing. Instead, we’re acting totally in opposition to this law of dynamics, and that is causing an imbalance in our relationships. As a society and in our relationships, we’re consumed with feelings of ‘what do I need for myself?’ rather than ‘what can I do for the other?’
This really is human dynamics – absolute egoism, exactly where everyone, knowingly or unknowingly, has the desire to use others – in sex, in a family, in a society – for their personal illusory advantage. This advantage is illusory, simply because within the end we receive no benefit at all for ourselves, or for others. Everything we do, knowingly or unknowingly, is according to a easy egoistical calculation. However, simply because the laws of character are presently concealed from us, we are not yet aware of the extent of our egoism, as well as the particular component that we can play in improving our relationships. Only by studying the spiritual laws of character, can we start to understand the harm that we are currently causing ourselves, and correct the crisis in our relationships.
Enjoy isn’t depending on mutual attraction and chemistry. It is depending on the laws of nature and spiritual giving. It appears when two people recognize their egoistic natures and begin working on themselves to rise above it.
When men and women work together toward a spiritual goal, they build their connection at an entirely various level – a spiritual level. In doing so, they transcend their mundane conflicts and differences, since they have a higher goal that fills their lives with content. Couples who realize that mutual spiritual growth may be the most precious gift that they can give to one an additional are the happiest couples. Their relationship acquires a deeper and genuine meaning, and they grow together on a path of happiness and fulfillment.
Really like is really a extremely complicated quality that should be studied. The ancient wisdom of Kabbalah reveals to us the way to achieve true and lasting really like.